查理·卓别林 ( Charlie Chaplin ) 写于 70 岁生日当天。

当我真正开始爱自己，

我才认识到，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨，都只是提醒我：活着，不要违背自己的本心。

今天我明白了，这叫做“真实”。

As I began to love myself,

I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.

Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.

当我真正开始爱自己，

我才懂得，把自己的愿望强加于人，是多么的无礼，就算我知道，时机并不成熟，那人也还没有做好准备，就算那个人就是我自己。

今天我明白了，这叫做“尊重”。

As I began to love myself,

I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.

Today I call it RESPECT.

当我真正开始爱自己，

我不再渴求不同的人生，我知道任何发生在我身边的事情，都是对我成长的邀请。

如今，我称之为“成熟”。

As I began to love myself,

I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.

Today I call it MATURITY.

当我真正开始爱自己，

我才明白，我其实一直都在正确的时间，正确的地方，发生的一切都恰如其分。由此我得以平静。

今天我明白了，这叫做“自信”。

As I began to love myself,

I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm.

Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.

当我真正开始爱自己，

我不再牺牲自己的自由时间，不再去勾画什么宏伟的明天。今天我只做有趣和快乐的事，做自己热爱，让心欢喜的事，用我的方式、我的韵律。

今天我明白了，这叫做“单纯”。

As I began to love myself,

I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.

Today I call it SIMPLICITY.

当我真正开始爱自己，

我开始远离一切不健康的东西。不论是饮食和人物，还是事情和环境，我远离一切让我远离本真的东西。从前我把这叫做“追求健康的自私自利”，

但今天我明白了，这是“自爱”。

As I began to love myself,

I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first, I called this attitude a healthy egoism.

Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.

当我真正开始爱自己，

我不再总想着要永远正确，不犯错误。

我今天明白了，这叫做“谦逊”。

As I began to love myself,

I quit trying to always be right, and ever since, I was wrong less of the time.

Today I discovered that is MODESTY.

当我真正开始爱自己，

我不再继续沉溺于过去，也不再为明天而忧虑，现在我只活在一切正在发生的当下。

今天，我活在此时此地，如此日复一日，这就叫“完美”。

As I began to love myself,

I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening.

Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.

当我真正开始爱自己，

我明白，我的思虑让我变得贫乏和病态，但当我唤起了心灵的力量，理智就变成了一个重要的伙伴，

这种组合我称之为，“心的智慧”。

As I began to love myself,

I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But , as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.

Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.

我们无须再害怕自己和他人的分歧，矛盾和问题，因为即使星星有时也会碰在一起，形成新的世界。

今天我明白了，这就是“生命”！

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.

Today I know THAT IS “LIFE“!

后记：

今天又是圣诞节了，我花了比平时多的钱去吃了一些食物，想要主动拥抱这一天，虽然结果并没有什么改变。

你可能会说，一个洋节，为什么我要这样在意呢？我在 9 年前和你的想法一样。

但现在，圣诞节对我来说并不是节日，而是许多年前那一刻的感觉，仿佛是个约定，今天我会重返青春。

那天我和最爱的伙伴们在一起。毕业后各自分散，再也没有见过面。再也没有和第二拨人过一次圣诞节。

我爱圣诞节，后来的每年都爱一次，但和圣诞无关，我爱的是那时的我和世界。

我想我会永远爱圣诞节，爱世界，并开始爱自己。